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How to share your sexual fantasies with your partner?

It is difficult to reveal your inner sexual fantasies to your partner, especially since sexual fantasies are not accepted in a secular sense. What is taboo is the fear of being rejected by your partner and being disgusted by your sexual fantasies. Are you afraid that sharing your sexual fantasies with your partner will affect your relationship? Sounds like you feel particularly bad about sharing your fantasies with your partner? This is not actually the case. It is important to talk about your sexual fantasies with your partner and be prepared for them not to be accepted. Choose a comfortable time and place to talk to your partner in a relaxed manner.

What are the benefits of sharing sexual fantasies?

Sharing sexual fantasies with a partner can express our inner desires and desires, even if they are not acceptable. For example, your sexual fantasies include having sex outdoors, having weird sexual fetishes, or recreating romantic scenes from pornographic movies. What could be better than having a partner who is interested in your sexual fantasies? Make your sex life more adventurous and exciting. Sharing your sexual fantasies can also bring you closer and increase intimacy.

How to share your sexual fantasies with your partner?

Sharing your sexual fantasies with your partner may sound like a simple thing, but there are actually a lot of things you need to pay attention to to make it more enjoyable and safe for you to talk about it.

1. It’s not weird to have sexual fantasies

First of all, sexual fantasies themselves are not strange or disgusting, they are normal and instinctive fantasies. Sex usually starts with our thoughts and our attitudes towards sex, which make up our sexual fantasies. Just because you have sexual fantasies doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.

2. Clarify the purpose of sharing

Before you start talking about your sexual fantasies with your partner, be clear about your goals and desires. What do you want to gain from talking about your sexual fantasies with your partner, and fantasies don't mean they have to happen. For example, threesomes, or bondage, you don't want it to happen in real life, it will make you feel scared, etc.

Figure out the purpose of sharing, such as a more intimate discussion about the topic, viewing of related porn, or a desire for your partner to get to know you and your preferences better.

However, if you want to realize this sexual fantasy with your partner, you should seriously consider it, communicate more with your partner, find what both parties like, and balance it to achieve it better.

3. Be prepared for not being accepted

Tell the other person your sexual fantasies sincerely and be mentally prepared accordingly. For example, your partner may be neutral, interested, or even disgusted by your sexual fantasies. So no matter how your partner reacts, being prepared in advance to be unacceptable can give you a better mentality to face it. Of course, if your partner is interested in your sexual fantasies, then you can have a good discussion about it. Discuss and explore further.

4. If the fantasy is dark or taboo

If you have some sexual fantasies that are not in line with the secular world, or are relatively dark and taboo, but everyone has different definitions of taboos and different standards. But such taboo thoughts can make you find it difficult to speak up, or you might be afraid of scaring your partner. No matter what your fantasy is, you can choose to take a sideways approach or a step-by-step approach to understand your partner's attitude and thoughts about it.

5. Be empathetic

To be a good partner, it is important to have empathy. This means understanding our partner's desires, emotional needs and feelings. Talking sincerely about sexual fantasies with your partner can also bring you closer and increase intimacy with your partner.

6. Seek help from a sex therapist

If you are unable to identify your sexual fantasies, or are troubled by sexual fantasies, you can seek help from a psychologist or sex therapist. But there is no problem with having sexual fantasies that are taboo in the secular sense, as long as they do not harm others in real life. Or acting out your sexual fantasies without the other person’s consent. Then there’s no need to worry and be anxious about your sexual fantasies.

How to explore your sexual fantasies in the bedroom?

If you want to explore your sexual fantasies with your partner in the bedroom, communicate with your partner to ensure they agree. And understand each other's preferences and boundaries. You can make a list to understand each other's preferences and taboos more clearly. You can also add props or sex toy to your sexual fantasies, but only if your partner agrees. It’s important to have a safe word so you can stop if you feel uncomfortable. Finally don’t forget about aftercare, both emotional and physical.

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