In everyday language, labeling someone a "child" carries negative connotations, often associated with terms like "spoiled" or "selfish." However, within the realm of BDSM, those who proudly embrace the title "brat" find pleasure in their actions. In this case, the child is a submissive who derives satisfaction from playfully challenging their usually more dominant partner.
Children love to be naughty, cheeky and sassy, pushing boundaries and disobeying within established power dynamics. Their expressions of submission are usually relaxed, consensual and designed to elicit a reaction from the dominant partner.
The key factor in understanding your children is the intention behind their behavior – rather than deliberately annoying them. Rather, their behavior is purposeful, consensual, and designed to elicit a response from the dominant partner. Children will take specific actions, behaviors, or words that create opportunities for their dominant to assert dominance. The welcome response is usually a mutually agreed upon predetermined punishment or dominant behavior. Whether challenging your partner to affirm dominance or seeking the thrill of pushing agreed-upon boundaries, this dynamic revolves around consent and mutual understanding.
That way, children derive pleasure from disobeying and subsequently being punished. For children, there is a sense of satisfaction in feeling like they have "earned" a punishment for being "bad," and many enjoy the feeling of being "put in their place" by their dominant partner. It’s worth noting that in the BDSM community, the word “brat” is often used, and an individual can actively “brat” or engage in “bratting.” This is a comprehensive guide to help you understand and accept the role of a BDSM kid in the bedroom.
What is Brat?
In BDSM, a "brat" refers to someone who seeks to be disciplined by a dominant partner due to naughty or naughty behavior. Although children remain submissive, they may actively resist or issue harsh orders to their dominants designed to provoke more intense forms of discipline, consistent with their fantasies of being sexually condemned.
Similar to other gender identities, the child persona encompasses a range of expressions and identities. Young children are often compliant and playfully defiant. Additionally, it is less common for a dominant individual to adopt a childlike persona.
Does Brat have to be the bottom?
While young children are often thought of as bottom, it seems to me that most young children are best understood as "bottom-leaning switches." A standard submissive is a "lower person who actively enjoys being told what to do and doing it well," while little kids take pleasure in defying orders and playing with power dynamics. However, this shift in power dynamics is usually temporary, with the goal of getting the child "back to where he was."
While children are generally considered compliant, the degree of compliance—and the intent to comply—can vary from child to child and even from scene to scene. "Children who are more submissive will actively feel others exercising power to punish them; these naughty children really enjoy pushing their top boundaries to see what they get."
In order to grasp the diversity of children's spectrums, it is necessary to explore the differences and connections between "tops," "bottoms," and "switches" in BDSM dynamics. In BDSM terminology, the "bottom" receives sensations or experiences, in contrast to the "top" which provides those experiences. A “switcher” is someone who can move fluidly between these roles or revel in the middle ground, embracing aspects of both.
What is a Child Tamer?
The person who is the child's counterpart in the BDSM dynamic is often called a "child tamer." Literally, the main function of a child tamer is to tame children.
Just as a child derives pleasure from "winning" punishment, a child tamer will find satisfaction in feeling like he or she has "earned" the submission of a child, thereby creating a dynamic of mutual enjoyment of dominance and submission in a fun exchange .
How do I tell my partner that I want to try brat?
Introducing the idea of "kid play" to your partner requires open and honest communication. If you haven't discussed BDSM yet, it's crucial to discuss the issue of play with young children. I recommend sharing your needs and desires openly while creating a space for your partner to listen and share ideas. It's important to respect your partner's reactions and acknowledge if they need more information or time to think about it. Your partner, on the other hand, may be equally excited about the idea and appreciate your openness in bringing it up in the first place. The key is to facilitate dialogue so that both parties can understand and explore each other's wishes in a consensual and informed manner.
After discussing it with your partner and making sure you're both on the same page, incorporating childish play into your sex life can be an exciting adventure. I recommend starting with subtle resistance and a playful smile to test the waters. For starters, I recommend asking to be dominated, giving oral sex, and acting playfully in naughty ways—talking back or teasing—before finally giving in.
It’s important to stress that, as with any sexual activity, consent and clear boundaries are crucial. Play with young children requires detailed consultation and frequent consent checks. Care should be taken when teasing to avoid crossing boundaries or causing any discomfort. Take the time to thoroughly discuss boundaries and establish safe words to ensure a consistent and enjoyable experience for both parties.
In BDSM, being submissive does not necessarily mean participating in children's play. There are many archetypes of obedience, and child play is just one of them. If you don't like the idea of being "naughty," there are plenty of other submissive characters to explore.
Some subcategories within the submissive archetype in BDSM:
- Masochism: Enjoys pain, often seeking sexual satisfaction from it.
- Baby Girl/Baby Boy: A submissive individual who exhibits childish traits such as curiosity and a desire to be pampered.
- Victim: Involves consensual victim play, usually reserved for experienced BDSM practitioners, and always includes safe words to distinguish play from real life.
- Slave: Treats one's body as a sexual service, fulfilling the demands of the dominant partner in a slavish manner.
- Good Girl/Boy: Gains satisfaction from pleasing a dominant partner and is often praised for being "good".
In BDSM, the diversity of roles and dynamics allows individuals to explore and find what resonates with their desires and preferences.