Are you dissatisfied with your current sex life or want to try new ideas? Talk to your partner about sex! After all, communication is the basis of everything. Maybe you feel shy about it or you have never talked openly about sex, but don’t be afraid to talk about sex. Talking about sex is for a better sex life and sexual experience, and to express your desires. There's nothing to be ashamed of.
Why you should talk to your partner about sex?
Maybe you feel ashamed to talk about sex due to traditional concepts. Don't worry, this is a normal phenomenon. Only by talking about sex with your partner can you have a better sex life and experience.
Before you start talking to your partner about sex, be prepared that it may not be easy. But don't worry too much. After all, the starting point for a better sex life is good, but it is important for both parties to maintain a sex-positive state.
And talking about sex can bring us many benefits. It can not only improve our sex life, but also bring us closer to each other and make us more positive about sex and try more sexual possibilities.
What should we avoid?
1. Blaming and criticizing your partner
Maintain a positive attitude when discussing sex, gently propose the direction and behavior you want to change, and avoid criticism. Talk more about your feelings and give more affirmation to the other person. My advice is to talk about some of the things you like the other person to do to you before you offer your opinion, and then after that you offer your opinion.
2. Definitely refuse to let your partner try new ideas.
When you start to try new sexual ideas, you categorically deny your partner, say I won't do it, etc., which will extinguish your partner's enthusiasm and enthusiasm for trying new sexual activities, and may even cause harm to your partner. , destroying the relationship between the two. If you are not interested in it, you can also tell your partner in a tactful way, such as "I'm not sure if it's suitable for me. Can you tell me why you are so passionate about it?"
And talking about sex is something that requires frequent communication and ongoing discussion. Because our sexual desires and preferences may change over time. Or if you have new ideas you want to try, maintaining communication with your partner can lead to a better sexual experience.
3. “You won’t make me cum.”
This sentence can be very hurtful to each other's feelings. It is a kind of criticism and denial of your partner. Although the orgasm gap does exist, there are ways we can improve it. This kind of accusation will not be helpful in having a better sexual experience. Only by understanding your own body and how to make yourself happy can you have a better sexual experience. Similarly, there are many ways to improve the orgasm gap. Solutions, such as adding sex toys to sex, can shorten this gap.
How to properly talk to your partner about sex?
1. Start slowly
Take your time when talking about sex and don't rush it. You can make an appointment with your partner at a time and place in advance, so that both parties can be prepared, understand their goals and desires, and focus on the problems to be solved.
2. Choose the right time and place
Choose a suitable time and place to start your sexual conversation. Avoid talking in the bedroom, before going to bed, or after sex. You can choose a more private place, such as a coffee shop, in the afternoon or morning. Choose a place where you both feel safe and comfortable to talk.
3. Focus on intimacy
During this process, you should pay attention to each other's intimacy, don't be too formal, and express your desire to change, for the sake of a better sexual experience for both parties.
4. Express your wishes
Express what you want, what you don't like, what you want the other person to do to you, what sexual activities you want to try, etc. Make clear your boundaries with each other.
5. Communicate often
Talking about sex is something that requires constant communication and ongoing discussion. Because our sexual desires and preferences may change over time. Or if you have new ideas you want to try, maintaining communication with your partner can lead to a better sexual experience.